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All Growed Up with Some Place to Go

August 20th, 2010

We ventured out to our local amusement and water park yesterday with the boys. We go every summer and they begin looking forward to it on the car ride home the year before.

We were all ready to walk out the door, and I went in my bedroom to do a sweep of the area to make sure I didn’t forget anything. My eyes scanned over everything, and landed on my tarot cards. I hadn’t drawn a card in several days and I figured today would be a great day if there ever was one, so I sat down and began to shuffle.

I drew the Tower.

*Sudden, dramatic change, upheaval. There’s a possibly uncomfortable change on the rise…*

That made me want to worry a little given that we were leaving town for the day. I decided to let go of the worry by saying a prayer for fun, health, and safety. Then I let it go and out the door we went.

The amusement park doesn’t open until 1pm. We always start in the water park because it opens at 11am. Usually around 2pm we are starving, so we go out to the vehicle where we stretch out with each other and the radio and have a nice picnic lunch. After lunch, we go through the dry park for a few hours. Around 5pm, we go back in the water park until 7pm when it closes. Then it’s back out to the amusement park until it closes at 10pm. It makes for a busy, exhausting day.

Well….

We were in the water park for about 10 minutes when I realized what my sudden, dramatic change was. It WAS an upheaval and it WAS uncomfortable. And it was certainly sudden and dramatic.

For the first time ever, my boys went off to play in the water park by themselves. They left Mike and I to float around the “Endless River” on tubes alone. I wanted to cry. When did my babies grow up?

We didn’t even talk about it before hand. We got inside and Michael looked at us and said, “Can we go by ourselves?”

Mike and I looked at each other and he said, “Well, it IS completely enclosed. There ARE 4 or 5 lifeguards at every post, AND only one door out….”

Then he looked at the boys and said, “You are not to leave the water park for any reason and if someone tries to make you leave, you sit down wherever you are and scream your head off… That way everyone will know something isn’t right… Okay?”

There was an immediate round of nods and agreements and then, BAM… my babies grew up right before my eyes.

I’m trying to hold tight to the perspective, “Isn’t is wonderful to watch the growth of these two little people?! Isn’t it beautiful how they are becoming whoever they’re going to be and I get to influence them and help them to truly know who they are?!”

I will adjust. I won’t hold them back. I won’t TRY to control and shape them, but instead through my love and encouragement, I will teach them about their own control, and allow them to take shape.

Still my heart hurts…

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Conscious Parenting, Personal Growth, Tarot

Parenting Conscious Creators

July 10th, 2010

I love talking to my kids about magic and conscious creation. They’re such fantastic students. Kids don’t have all their beliefs figured out yet, so this stuff comes rather naturally to them.

Today our heatwave ended. About 3am a beautiful thunderstorm rolled into the area bringing much temperature relief. It proceeded to rain all morning and all day. I can’t wait to see the effect on my garden!

I had today(Friday) scheduled as our grocery day because I completely missed the boat yesterday. About noon as we were sitting down to lunch, Eddie says, “I don’t think we should go to the store today, Mom. If we do, we’re going to get completely soaked!”

Seeing an immediate teaching opportunity, I replied, “We’ll get completely soaked if we’re focusing on it like that! We need to talk about what we want to create, not what we don’t want. Can you say it again, only this time say what you want to happen.”

“I want it to stop raining”

“Well, that’s better, but you’re still missing it a little. Raining is what you have, and what you don’t want, right? So if raining is what you DON’T want to see, what is it that you DO want to see?”

“Not raining.” (sigh… 8…)

“Okay! How about this! We create with our thoughts and words, right?”

“Yeah!”

“So show me how you can create *Not*. You can create rain. You can create DRY. You can create SUN. How do you CREATE not rain?”

(Dawning recognition with eyes lighting up)

“OOOoooohhhhhh! I get it Mom! *Not something*’s opposite is always something else! I can’t make a NOT so I have to find the thing that the not stands for!” (I had to write that one down as soon as he said it so the quote would be accurate. LOL)

*Hug* “You’re a smart cookie, Kid”

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So, now we have to make a statement about what it is we actually want to see. We collectively decided that we wanted the rain to clear and the weather to dry out long enough for us to go to the store and back so we could remain warm and dry. That was our official intention.

We were about 5 minutes from leaving the house when the rain stopped. This was about 2 hours after our original intention. Eddie comes in from the porch grinning. I see him coming and think that he must be about to tell me that our intention is happening because the rain’s stopped.

Nope. He says, “HA! Weather man said rain ALL DAY and it stopped. He was wrong!”

I said, “Or maybe it was unfair to expect him to give an accurate forecast when we’re sitting here consciously trying to alter the weather and bend it to our own will.”

This was when it hit him that we had in fact asked the rain to stop by the time we left and here we are preparing to walk out the door and the heavy rain we’d been experiencing all day thus far had stopped short. I grinned at his mildly stunned expression and finished collecting my things.

We left and drove 10 miles to the grocery store. We were there for about 45 minutes and then drove the same 10 miles back home. Including loading bags into the van and then back out of the van and into the house, the total time spent was about 1.5-2 hours. It didn’t rain the whole time we were gone. The sun wasn’t out and it looked dark and angry outside, but it didn’t rain.

We got everything in the house and the van parked again and after we were home for about 15 minutes, it started to rain lightly and it continued for most of the rest of the afternoon, but we never got wet.

The kids were downright impressed with our little bit of magic making. I love when things work out so nicely because as we all know, the more you see your own consciousness at work around you, the easier it is to believe in your own power.

I want these boys to always know their own power and respect it and rejoice in it, as I do.

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My affirmation until 7-11-10 on the New Moon~
My life is a reflection of my thoughts. I will think on Joy filled things*

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Attraction in Action, Conscious Creation, Conscious Manifestation, Conscious Parenting, Kids & LOA, Law of Attraction

New Beginnings

June 7th, 2010

Today is a new beginning for us here in the Baugher household. The official start of summer vacation.

We’re off to the library today! I got the new chore lists printed out yesterday and we’re ready to begin our summer adventure!

I’ve learned that the trick to surviving a summer vacation with all my hair intact is to plan and schedule something to do or somewhere to go for almost every weekday. We get up and get moving in the morning while the weather is still tolerable so by early afternoon when it’s starting to become uncomfortable outside, we’re back home where there’s air conditioning and a pool.

We’ve got a library day, beach day, grandma day, home day, and bike day.

I’m so happy that I get to spend summer vacation doing fun things with my kids. Heck, it’s my JOB! That’s sort of funny.
I work hard at having fun!!

I realized a year or so ago that, you only get so many summers with your kids. When they’re really little there’s not much you CAN do and when they get older, they stop wanting to do things with their parents and start wanting to spend time with friends and girlfriends. This is MY time.

Alan is going to be 16 in two months and he’s already spending most of his time with his girlfriend. Michael is 10.5 and wanting to go hang out with friends. There’s still a LOT of limits on that, but I know it’ll only be a couple more years before there’s not and then he won’t be around much through the summer anymore. Eddie is my baby, and I’ve still got a good 6 years with him yet :) That makes me feel happy.

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Time is fleeting. It slips away from you. I used to be so focused on where I was going and looking forward that I was always losing time and missing what was right here in front of me. I’m so glad that I was able to change my focus in a permanent way.

I don’t want to miss the childhoods of my children. I don’t want to have them sitting right here with me and miss it because I was so focused on when they’ll be grown up and “out of my hair.” I think too many parents see raising kids as something they’re expected to do. Something that they have to do. Something that should be approached and pushed through to minimize discomfort, boredom, or responsibility.

“Go play, I’m busy.” ~ “I’d LOVE to, but I can’t because I have kids.” ~ “When I’m X years old, these kids will finally be 18 and moving out!”

That used to be me… in a BIG way. As it turns out though, you can TOTALLY enjoy kids. You can laugh and run and play with them. They’re there to MAKE you stop looking ahead so far. Kids aren’t fun when you’re looking over their heads and into the future.

Kids are only fun when you’re right there with them in THAT moment. That is where all the fun and laughter and enjoyment is.

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My affirmation today~ My life is an amazing utopia of grace and beauty. I am truly blessed.

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